The principle of Leave and Cleave
Text
Matt. 19:3-6 (KJV)
Aims
to discuss the biblical concept and principles of leaving and cleaving in Marriage and ii.to discuss those things that should be left for effective marriage relationship.
Introduction
The Greek word kataleiqai that is translated leave means ‘to wholly give up both father and mother for more intimacy in matrimonial union’; while the Greek word proskoll-hyhsetai, that is translated cleave means ‘shall be closely united or firmly cemented to his wife’. Therefore, the biblical principle of leave and cleave refers to the act of leaving one’s parents and forming a new bond with one’s spouse. Here, a new family is formed that focuses on the need to prioritize marriage over all other relationships and become an independent family unit in partnership with God’s honour. While the parent-child relationship is good but temporary, the husband-wife relationship is sacred, deeper and permanent in all ramifications of physical, emotional, intellectual, financial and social relationship. Apart from parents, there are other factors to leave in other to cleave and have genuine and godly relationship in marriage.
Study guide
What is the biblical concept of leaving and cleaving in marriage according to our text? Matt. 19: 5
From life experiences, practically discuss the kind of people and things that Christian couples should leave for effective cleaving in marriage in the context of Gen 24:51, 58-61; Ruth 1:16-18.
How do you understand asunder in the context of Matt 19:6 and critically analyse and discuss factors for asunder in marriage.
How can we relate the principle of ‘leave and cleave’ to our relationship with God in Christendom? 2Cor 6:14-18 CONCLUSION It is natural for infiltrations to penetrate into a Christian marriage. However, it is very important and crucial for the couple to reject such because they will put asunder into the marriage. Jesus affirmed God’s original intent for marriage to be an indissoluble, faithful, and fruitful union. Therefore, what God had joined together, let no one put asunder.
Food for thought
To cleave to your spouse is to leave every agent of asunder.
Memory verse
Matt. 19: 5 “And God said, ‘for this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?” (KJV)