Don’t be a dictator
Text
Matt 7:1-5.
Aims
to study the humble art of involvement in household responsibilities and
to teach the bane of dictatorship in marital responsibilities.
Introduction
We ended the study on Courtship in study 22 with vital discussions on the importance of intending couples helping each other in household works in their marital Lifestyle. For the next seven studies beginning from today, we shall be studying various household responsibilities by marriage couples.
Husbands and wives are obliged to some duties at home. Nevertheless, they might sometimes lag in such responsibilities. At such period, the spouse should avoid nagging, insulting, mocking and casting aspersion on each other. Couples must avoid statements like: ‘Can’t you see that the sitting room is filthy? Why are you just preparing the food? Don’t you know you will take the children to school? You must make sure you take the children to school as early as possible tomorrow;’ All these should be abominable statements in a Christian marital home. Instead, let couples accept responsibilities for each other’s deficit in household responsibilities and explain the reasons for their assisting role in such situation, instead of blaming or dictating to each other.
Study guide
Expatiate on the Bible passage today as related to our topic; ‘Don’t be a dictator’.
As a husband, I came back from work and saw the parlour, littered with market products; what can I do to impart more love into my wife? As a wife, I noticed my husband had not gone to bring the children from school, what can I do to add to our joy? Discuss in line with Eph 4:1-3.
Analyse some of the ways couples had or can easily destroy lovely relationship through dictatorship in household responsibilities. Prov 15:1b, 28b; Matt 7:2;
How best should a Christian couple relate on the issues of household responsibilities? Col 3:12-15.
Conclusion
Couple must be prayerful and relate with each other in godly manners so as to be humble in explaining roles to each other instead of blaming or dictating to each other.
Food for thought
Godliness with love bears the fruits of humility and togetherness in marital relationship. Crave for it.
Memory verse
Col 3:13 “bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do”.